The Spirit Of Forgiveness

2013-07-31 12.17.20We often talk, teach and embrace the fact that Jesus forgave me and how great and awesome that is. And sometimes it stops right there.

Let me tell you it does not stop there. The scripture tell us that we are to forgive as well. Jesus us tells us in His “model” prayer that Mat 6:12 “And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.” Continue reading The Spirit Of Forgiveness

Revenge Is Not From The Heart Of God

Hitting the target
A word for today.

Lately, in the midst of so many conversations about relationships and restoration, I found myself caught up with this quote from King Lear.

I will have such revenges on you both, That all the world shall–I will do such things,–  What they are, yet I know not: but they shall be  The terrors of the earth. King Lear.

Why you might ask. Because in the midst of difficult circumstances unforgiveness gains a foothold. The inability to forgive or release another is a thought process of revenge. “They hurt me.” “You do not know what they did.” I agree. I may not know specifically but God does and He cares…about BOTH parties. The fuel of unforgiveness or revenge is centered in greed, fear, self-centeredness and pride. It is not about the situation as much as it is about “getting even” somehow, some way. Many might call it justice.  But God has a New Covenant reality when it comes to justice or the meting out of judgment. James 2:13 For judgment will be merciless to one who has shown no mercy; mercy triumphs over judgment. Romans 12:19 Never take your own revenge, beloved, but leave room for the wrath of God, for it is written, “VENGEANCE IS MINE, I WILL REPAY,” says the Lord. Continue reading Revenge Is Not From The Heart Of God

Restoration and Relationships

We could take grampa's apart.
We could take grampa’s apart and restore it!

On Sunday at our church fellowship, a “tongue” was given and I had the interpretation. It had to do with restoration.  (In the last few days I have had reports of restored relationships.) I have been “burdened” with the stretching and breaking of relationships the last month or so. It pains me to see marriages break up, children lost and hearts broken. I just hurt for people.

First, let me say I get that there are times where destruction and abuse and such have taken place. And I understand the need to move apart in the face of these things. That is NOT what I will be talking about. Secondly, my gift mix gives me a different observation perspective and I will share from there. And finally, I am a guy and I get some women may not think I get it! J

The last few months I have watched believing men and women talk divorce, file papers and avoid some of the biggest issues on the plate.Experientially what I see more than anything else is that it is the ability to:

  • Believe God is the answer
  • Believe “love covers a multitude of sin.”
  • Believe the other party is “not out to get you.” (And if they are out to get you, what is your response? Love? Anger?)
  • Believe you do not have to be self-centered
  • Believe you can do all things through Christ Jesus who strengthens you.

That will change things!

I struggle with the broken relationships. I personally struggle from two past marriages and how they hurt my children though I had “no say” in the finality. (I could not do those 4 things above either.) I would not wish broken relationships on anyone.

And God has changed me…immensely! I get that “things happen” but folks we are believers! We are subject to change because of Him!

How do we get there?

I am a “grace” guy. I believe in allowing people the freedom to make choices, even when they are not healthy or good. I believe grace and truth are found in the person of Jesus Christ, and that grace is a person and His name is Jesus. I believe in extending grace, mercy and forgiveness.

His desire is to restore. Restoration can occur in many places but I believe first and foremost it is the heart of the Father to restore families. Malachi 4:6  And he shall turn the heart of the fathers to the children, and the heart of the children to their fathers, lest I come and smite the earth with a curse

Restoration is defined as: the act or process of returning something to its original condition by repairing it, cleaning it, etc.: the act of bringing back something that existed before: the act of returning something that was stolen or taken

If we say we believe in grace. That we believe in love. Well, I hate to be the bearer of “sad tidings” but we ought to walk it. You have to allow God to change you and move through you. You can have all the freedom you want and call it grace, but if it is trampling on others, hurting others and more, you are not operating in grace, and God is extending you mercy. Grace is the empowerment in your life to love, to forgive and to change.

Do not step up to the plate unless you are ready to hit!

A word on restoration speaks to the atmospheres and the powers of the enemy, but the reality of that word ought to bring change in us as well.

A New Season for Tina and I

This is a new season for Tina and I.

thankful-script 2013-11-03 08.36.34I wrote this on Friday.

Today is a new season for Tina and I. Our 11th move in over 21 years together. November 1st 2013. (Lots of 1’s.) I have Christmas music playing in the new apartment while waiting for the cable guy to show up and hook up the internet.  We will be moved out of our smoky apartment and into this nice quiet place.

Jacob woke up on Saturday morning and said “daddy, I love this place. I slept so well.” It was a busy weekend but everything is moved. So thankful for friends and family that helped this weekend make it happen.

And yesterday these were my thoughts.

Who would have thought moving would have removed the pain?
Over a year ago I became so sick that I could no longer carry my business. Hence a loss of income.

For over a year I have experienced pain levels of 8-10 each and every morning I had stayed in our apartment. The only respite was travel and staying somewhere else.

When it began I put off the doctor, but the sudden weight loss accompanied by the pain drove me to the doctor. Upon entering they wasted no time and scheduled batteries of tests, including endoscopy, blood work, allergy tests, CATscan and MRI. I had a tech who told me “you are here because you have cancer” at which I told him to “shut up.”

The end result was after nearly 6 months, they said they could find nothing. But I still experienced huge pain levels.

Before our move I was driven to just not moving for hours and hours, even though knowing to go outside would be “healthier” just getting up sometimes took all my energy. For the most part, few knew the extent of what was endured.

We are moved and I am thankful. Overnight the pain left. My voice is being restored.

I am thankful for all the friends and family who have made this possible. I really appreciate each and every one of you.

I am not sure what exactly is on the table for the future. Tina and I have a day to ourselves on some levels as I move one more carload today.

A lot of things are up in the air, so to speak. But grace is the empowerment to overcome.

Thanks for all you do.

A new season. For us. For many.