One of the hardest things about being a believer is watching people, friends and family go through difficult times. Particularly those that are within their grasp to control. Too often the choices that one makes determine the quality of the answer.

What about choices? As one of my dear friends Roger stated at a funeral not too long ago in his own inimitable way.  “Get a job. Be a good person. Do not be a bum. Do not marry a bum. Do not let your kids be bums.” Over the years he has said similar things like, “if you do drugs the handwriting is on the wall.” Now both he and I believe God can help restore and bring those people into better circumstances. But so often it is choices…then and now.I know life can throw curves at you. I understand bad things can happen. I have been around long enough to see it happen to myself and others. When my son ended up in a coma many years ago I could see where it was headed. I also sat there many a night and wondered how I could have done it better. (Overall, blended families are perhaps one of the hardest challenges I ever face.)

Lately I have watched people going through what seems to be a “lot” of relationship issues. I have to tell you that there are three things that help and have helped me and others.

1. Read the scriptures and ask God to reveal His love, His mercy and His grace to you. Principles and character are often outlined in the Bible. Asking God to reveal Himself to you is important. The principles of grace and honor are key.
2. Enjoy the seedbed of grace. There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. (How to make that happen? Believe on Him.) Grace is found in the person of Jesus Christ.
3. Community-without the community of believers (God hardwired us for community.) it is virtually impossible to move ahead and get where you want to be.

Unraveling these things that hang us up is important. Bad choices can usually be undone to some extent and restore peace. Seasons of difficulty can be turned into seasons of joy.

Too often we look for someone to support our unwise decisions because that appears easier. Reparation and reconciliation are on God’s heart…all the time. If you find that your relationships are “blowing” up you may need to review your own understanding of how you believe the Father loves you and cares for you. Too frequently we apply to our relationships our perception of God. Let me make it easy.

God…

• Loves you all the time
• Has your best in His heart.
• Is patient with you.
• Desires to protect you.
• Trusts His nature in you.
• Believes for your best to come forth.

Too often our perception and application of what we believe His role in our life is the key. Understanding His love for you is the answer to relationships that can last and have value.

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